by Curswell Tshihwela
Beginning of the year is the best time for people to set up their annual resolutions in line with their goals or what they strive to achieve the end of the year. Resolutions fulfilment relies entirely on that specific individual who set them. To successfully achieve your resolutions you need to know the importance of WHY. Your WHY has to be very strong. The consequences of not following through have to hit you hard. Once your WHY has the required strength then it becomes a matter of HOW and WHEN.
Think of resolutions as what you want to achieve as you close out of next year. People often set up resolutions such as “I will exercise every day”. The resolution is flawed if you are currently at 0/7 days of exercise per week! Set yourself realistic goals. You can say by the end of 2020 I will be exercising every day. This way in Jan you can start with 2 days and slowly build up to 7 days. Incrementally adding to monthly goals will keep you challenged. Don’t approach your resolutions as a to-do list. That is simply going to set you up for failure. Your resolutions will typically fall in the following categories: health, wealth, career, relationships, and fun, spiritual. Approach the goals smartly.
There will be certain days on which career is at the forefront and on certain days relationships require special attention. At the end of the day, write down what actions you have taken in each of the categories of your goals. This should give you a good idea of which category is gaining momentum and which requires special attention. Colour code your progress.
Lay down your goals on excel category wise. If you took actions towards the progress of a goal – colour it green, for status quo – yellow, for actions that take you away from the goal – red. Ensure you see more green on your screen to know that you are on the right track and you are accountable for your resolutions. There are different ways to keep yourself accountable and keep up with the resolutions you set yourself.
Make a super goal and then dissect it into super mini-goals. Think of it as the final exams and how you have to study the entire course but weekly quizzes and midterms make it reasonable and manageable to overcome. Don’t be scared to make an unreasonable goal because it’s like you want to travel abroad and in order to do that you need ID’s.
Then a passport then visa then tickets and eventually the trip. But even if you don’t make it to the travel, at least you have the passport and ID and know the process which makes you more enlightened than when you started. Keep your resolution simple. Sometimes people find themselves aiming for an overhaul of their entire lifestyle, and this is simply a recipe for disappointment and guilt. It may be understandable at this time of year when self-improvement is on your mind, but experience shows these things can’t all be achieved at once. The best approach is to focus clearly on one or two of your most important goals.
Choose carefully. But which to choose? Well, you might like to concentrate on those that will have the greatest impact on your happiness, health and fulfilment. For example, giving up smoking will obviously improve your health, but it will also give you a sense of pride and will make you happy.
Be realistic with your goals. Don’t aim too high and ignore reality – consider your previous experience with resolutions. What led to failure then? It may be that you resolved to lose too much weight or save an unrealistic amount of money. Remember, there will always be more opportunities to start on the next phase, so set realistic goals. Or if you don’t want to hold back, set clear short-term goals on your way to a big achievement.
Create bite-sized portions. Break goals down to manageable chunks. This is perhaps the most essential ingredient for success, as the more planning you do now, the more likely you are to get there in the end. The planning process is when you build up that all-important willpower which you will undoubtedly need to fall back on along the way. Set clear, realistic goals such as losing R93.56, saving R426.73 a month, or going for a run once a week. Decide exactly how you will make this happen. Some of the tips to help achieve this are as follows:
- Plan a time-frame. In fact, the time-frame is vital for motivation. It is your barometer for success, the way you assess your short-term progress towards the ultimate long-term goal. Buy a calendar or diary so you can plan your actions for the coming weeks or months, and decide when and how often to evaluate.
- Make notes. Having made a note of your time-frame, you will have a physical reminder of what you’re aiming for. Now go further and write down the details of your resolutions in a notebook, remembering to add your motivations. You could keep a scrapbook for this purpose, and fill it with photos of your slimmer self, pictures of sporting or hobby equipment you are saving for, or even a shocking credit card statement to spur you into action! If your resolution will directly benefit your partner, children, colleagues or friends then add their photos too – anything to remind you of your initial motivation.
- Treat yourself. When making your plan, a vital feature should be the rewards and treats you will give yourself at those all-important milestones. But be warned, don’t fall into the trap of putting your goal in danger – it’s too easy for a dieter to say “I’ve been so good, I deserve a few candy bars”, or a saver to throw caution to the wind with a new purchase. One slip and it could all be over.
- Receive support. It is at such times when you’ve temporarily fallen off the wagon, that your support network is crucial. Carefully choose those people around you who have shown themselves to be trustworthy, supportive friends and explain your plans. Let them know of ways they can help when it gets tough, and if they’re truly caring they’ll know the right things to say during the hard times.
- Don’t give up! Do bear in mind that a slip-up is almost inevitable at some point, and you must not let this become an excuse to give up. When it happens, you will need to draw on your reserves of self-belief and strength, so build these qualities as often as you can. Really feel proud of your past achievements and don’t become critical of yourself. People with higher self-esteem and confidence are in a much better position to succeed, so immediately forgive yourself and say “I’m starting again now!”
- Put yourself in charge. These achievements are under your control – other people can advise and support you but it’s your actions which need to change to see the results you want. Having a strong sense of control over your life is necessary to stick with your plans. Those who blame everyone and everything apart from themselves will not have the resources needed to change. Yes, it’s scary to take responsibility for your future, but surely it’s better than the alternative?
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