By Siviwe Zibi
It’s that time of year again. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. February is known as the month of love and romance. For those in love, Valentine’s Day is a time to reflect on your relationship and remember all the reasons why you love each other. I think it’s about time to make Valentine’s Day more inclusive. Being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. Valentine’s Day isn’t only about dating, chocolate and roses. 14 February is also a day to celebrate all of the loving relationships in your life, friends and family.
However, if you find yourself alone come to Valentine’s Day, you will probably view that day as boring. But just because you don’t have someone special to share it with, doesn’t mean that the day can’t be special. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you can still take part in Valentine’s Day celebrations. Handing out Valentines’ cards to your friends, classmates, siblings and colleagues can be a lot of fun and a great way to make someone feel good. Spend some time with your family, friends and anyone else you love to let them know how much you care about them. You can also spend Valentine’s day at the orphanage or hospital helping out the less privileged.
Like any other day, Valentine’s Day can be a good time to practice self-acceptance, work on your self-esteem and think about being more hopeful. You can make a list of the things you’re good at, what you’re most proud of so far and what your goals are. Doing these activities can help you improve your relationship with yourself and remind you that it’s OK to be single. Be kind to yourself.
Being single is a celebratory moment and one that is often overlooked. When you aren’t in a relationship, you have time to focus on yourself but when you are in a relationship, inevitably that focus is shifted.
Enjoy being single and don’t forget that there are many upsides of being single. Firstly, you get to do whatever you want to do on Valentine’s Day. Being single also means you can concentrate on what makes you happy, be more flexible with how you spend your time or money and make all of your own decisions. Take a moment to enjoy the added freedom and independence that comes with being single
Get yourself chocolates. Who says you need someone to buy it for you? Get a box of chocolate and enjoy it. Chocolate releases endorphins in the brain to make you feel good. So, a little chocolate will actually improve your mood.
Send yourself roses or a fun candy bouquet. Order the set a couple of weeks before Valentine’s Day and send it for you to get on Valentine’s Day. Even if you remember it’s you who really sent it, it will still make your day.
If you just got out of a bad relationship, a great idea of what to do for yourself is, make it a Pamper Day or an “All About You Day”. Go spend some money on yourself. It’s good to be a little selfish now and then. And when you see those red heart decorations or you hear a love song, think of yourself, and how much you love yourself.
You can also spend this day with other single ladies go for a movie or have some get together.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself. This will just make the day depressing and dreaded. Instead, be excited for this day. After all, it only comes once a year.